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想来想去，还是改成了这个英文名。

一是因为实在是和自己的中文名谐音，还有当然是因为老友记。

前一段听说朱莉和皮特快分手了，倒是有点窃喜的感觉。

并没有对这两个人中的谁有不喜欢，只是自以为是地觉得安妮斯顿和I皮特才是天造地设的一对。

突然想到这个可爱的美国甜心对她曾经心爱的俊男离婚时说的一段话：

每段关系都有漩涡和波浪，有时很艰难，有时很宁静，有时充满乐趣。最艰难的时刻往往是你想追求一种完美的境界，但那是可笑而不现实的。婚姻最神奇之处在于，在经过了那么多漩涡和波浪后，站在你身边的还是同一个人，你仍然深切地感受到，自己爱着对方。每次争执，总能让你们重新相遇，重新相知，重新相爱，在婚姻中，你们再展开一段新的婚姻，如此永远延续，没有终点。这就是我喜欢婚姻的原因，也是我希望从婚姻中得到的。但是很不幸，我们生活在一个任性的时代里，一遇到问题，首先想到的就是‘糟糕，过不下去了’，那是最重要、决定性的时刻，因为一旦有了这种想法，人们自然而然就签订了离婚协议，他们不知道，自己已经错过互相迁就、互相认错、重新证明爱情的机会，那才是最美好的。但是很遗憾，这不是他的婚姻观。我们的观点完全不同，若观点根本不一致，就无法勉强继续一段关系。我希望获得的是灵魂深处最忠诚的关系，但是他有权选择另一种形式，于是他选择分手。” 

"It's like the ebb and flow of every relationship," Aniston says. "It's hard; it gets easy; it gets fun again. What's hard to sustain is some ideal that it's perfect. That's ridiculous. What's fantastic about marriage is getting through those ebbs and flows with the same person, and looking across the room and saying, 'I'm still here. And I still love you.' You re-meet, reconnect. You have marriages within marriages within marriages. That's what I love about marriage. That's what I want in marriage. It's unfortunate, but we live in a very disposable society. Those moments where it looks like 'Uh-oh, this isn't working!'—those are the most important, transformative moments. Most couples draw up divorce papers when they're missing out on an amazing moment of deepening and enlightenment and connection."

She sighs heavily and turns away to light a Merit cigarette. "That's not Brad's view of it," she says, glum again. "We believe in different things, I guess. You can't force a relationship, even if it's your view of how you would like it to be conducted. Obviously two people leave a relationship because there's a different thought pattern happening. My goal is to try and achieve a very deep, committed relationship. That's what I'm interested in, but it's someone's prerogative to be or not to be in or out of a relationship.

又想到Friends里面的一段，Rachel对Ross说的一句：“I am over you ”. 安妮斯顿是否真的over掉皮特，谁也不知道，这是他们自己的感觉，其实与他人无关。他们之间的感情，也不知道是不是会随着时间的更改，岁月的变迁而改变，无人提起而已。

就像喜欢独立阳光坚强的Rachel一样，喜欢着安妮斯顿。

就是这样一个标准的美国妞，在经历了这么多的是是非非之后，她依然能保持永远迷人和可爱的微笑，依然有着如地中海波光一样的灿烂，依然能坦然豁达地面对那曾经伤害过她的人，有着她的坚强和温暖。

只希望，她比从前快乐。